• Katya McCubbing

My babywearing journey with Beth, my darling daughter with Down syndrome.

Updated: Jan 16, 2020

This article is an update to a post I wrote for a blog I started but didn't get far with.... The original post is here.

(Please ignore sub-optimal head positioning in photo, this was when she was 2 days old!)

On the 22nd of December 2009, my daughter Elizabeth Grace was born. It was a fast labour, and before I knew it, there she was in my arms. I spent the night in hospital looking at my little one, she was chubby and very calm and quiet. I could not take my eyes off her. For a brief moment I looked at her and thought maybe?, but pushed it to the back of my mind, because that was impossible right? and no one has said anything to me.

The following morning, a paediatrician came in and told us in the most tactless way possible that our little girl had Down syndrome. They would run blood tests but she was certain she had it, so gave us her card to make an appointment. We were devastated. My husband and I knew nothing of Down syndrome really, and went into shock. For the rest of the day my door kept opening with visits from social workers, lactation consultants, midwives, other paediatricians – some just to take a good look at her “for training purposes”, my daughter was wheeled away for a heart scan (we asked to come but were told we would just be in the way). I just spent the day in tears. Fortunately the heart scan showed nothing majorly wrong so they let us go home on Christmas Eve, I was desperate to leave.

I placed my precious bundle in a beautiful Didymos purple waves ringsling and held her close. I was out of there!!

The following few weeks were hard, she was very sleepy and struggled to breastfeed. We spent many days in bed together desperately trying to get her to feed enough, I am happy to say we got there in the end though, and I fed her until just before she turned 3. But the one thing I could do that felt normal and easy was to carry her, so I did so as often as possible, to hold her close, and to help me to bond with her more closely and to feel that it didn’t really matter. She was my baby, she craved love and warmth just like any other child, and carrying her was the completely natural thing to do.

I was very lucky that Beth was my second baby. I had previously carried my elder daughter Poppy since birth so was pretty confident in using different types of carriers. However, this was a new learning curve for me! As well as her diagnosis of Down syndrome, Beth had also been diagnosed with Hip dysplasia. Fortunately through Natural Mamas babywearing forum I had become friends with Anne McEwan who had done Trageschule training – and in doing so she had learned about wearing children with special needs. She was a great support to me, and helped me very quickly to gain the confidence to carry my little Beth comfortably, safely, and with ease.

There are a few things that you have to be careful with when wearing a child with Down syndrome. The key concerns are hip dysplasia and joint laxity. As well as this you must ensure there is adequate trunk support in the carrier so that your baby does not slump.

In this image you can see the thighs are well supported to the knee joint. Therefore forces on the hip joint are minimal because the legs are spread and supported, and the hip is more stable.

In this image, the thigh is not supported to the knee joint. This may result in hip dysplasia, and is certainly not recommended for children with Down syndrome, or hypermobility.

Babies and children with Down syndrome are more prone to having hip dislocation issues therefore it is very important that the hips are held at the correct angle, and the wearer must be very careful to ensure that there is no pressure placed upon the hip sockets.

As well as this, people with Down syndrome can have lax joints, which leads to a tendency to splay their legs wide, and it is important not to use carriers that encourage this by forcing the legs to splay wider than is natural for them to do.

According to the International Hip Dysplasia Institute, baby carriers that force the legs together may result in hip dysplasia

Carry positions should support the thigh in a knee to knee position, to keep the hips in a stable position.

I have spoken to some Mothers who were advised to keep the legs together to avoid this issue, but personally I disagree with this because it opposes my own research of hip dysplasia.

What carriers to choose

I decided against using ringslings, as at the time I was not confident in using them and they weren’t optimal for her hips, unless carefully positioned. I needed to get the hips out to the side in the way that bulky cloth nappies do, but not in a way that put any pressure at all on the hip or knee sockets.

Anne suggested to me that a hip carry would be great as Beth's legs would spread naturally over my hips and they would be placed at a safe distance apart. I however decided against this as I had a fear of bumping into things as I was going about my duties in the house. In the early days I did not leave the house at all really, it took me a long time to feel confident to go out with her, I was scared I would see someone I knew and would have to tell them. For the first few months I was unable to talk about it to new people without crying, it was easier to hide at home.

I decided instead to wrap her using the front wrap cross carry. I was concerned about using a wrap that was too thick and hard to mould safely around her without creating any pressure points, or cause any strain on her hip joints. My saviour was my calin bleu gauze wrap. It was wonderfully thin and easy to mould around her. I also used other thinner woven wraps as my confidence increased. The didymos stripe wraps and pfau were also very good in the early days. There are many other fantastic options on the market now though, these days we are truly spoilt for choice!.

I was however warned away from stretchy wraps as I was advised they don’t provide enough support for babies with low tone, but I know of mothers with children with Down syndrome who have happily used them. Personally I go with the expert opinion on this one and would advise caution. It really depends on the muscle tone of the individual child. This can vary greatly in children with Down syndrome.

By 6 months the worry about Beth’s hips passed. She had several hip scans and eventually the problems righted themselves with no treatments necessary. By this time I was confident with all carriers and all carries. Beth sat up at 5 ½ months which is rare in a child with Down syndrome. She seemed so strong and all my previous worries simply disappeared.

In summary, my research has concluded that these are the best carriers that can be chosen for children with low muscle tone / hypermobility issues:

Woven wraps

As mentioned they are great as long as you are very careful with hip positioning and ensure that they are placed firmly along the back to provide good neck support for the baby. I especially loved thinner wraps in the early days, such as girasols, and cotton didymos wraps, as well as of course my beloved Calin Bleu.

Mei Tais / soft structured carriers

On the market and easily available today are mei tais with adjustable bases, (such as the Mysol) meaning that their use would not put any pressure on hips. Soft structured carriers such as the ergo come with infant inserts which I am advised are suitable for children with Down syndrome.

One thing to be careful with when choosing a soft structured carrier (SSC) is that there is sufficient trunk support for your child. I was contacted by a friend who had been advised that perhaps her Tula Baby Carrier was not optimal for her child because she was "like a sack of potatoes" in it, and that her child would be better off in a hipseat. I contacted my wonderful friend Anne McEwan and she told me this:

"I agree in part with his reasoning, core strength simply does not develop as well in a MT or SSC (it is one of the arguments behind the stirrups for the Boba) nor are they are adjustable. I would personally prefer a ringsling or a wrap tied with an adjustable hipcarry as that helps better with the hip position, give a hands free option and allows for more flexibility. It is also more comfortable for the parent (than a Hipseat) in my opinion. Something else she may want to consider is whether baby likes to have her feet supported to give her more movement and help her build stronger core muscles."

Every child is different individual and unique, and has different needs that you are parents will need to consider. As I wrote above I was advised that hip carries were a good option for Beth when she was a baby, but they weren't something I was comfortable with using as my preferred option. We actually used a Boba Carrier with Beth when she was older and found it wonderful and supportive, great with babies and toddlers as well. I would also recommend before purchasing a carrier that you visit one of the many slingmeets that seem to be held globally! Within Australia, you can find one via this link: Sling Meets Australia.

What are the benefits of babywearing?

I contacted a lovely lady I know in Queensland who has a 9 month old little girl named Josee with Down syndrome (Edit: This is Joelle Kelly who runs Josee's Journey of Faith Hope & Love). I asked her what she thought. She told me “I love that she can be with me and feel secure. But I think it goes both ways. I think carrying her has melted my anxiety away! I too feel a sense of security when carrying her. I like that we can interact and she can see the world with me, at eye level. I feel that it has impacted positively on her muscle tone and strength and that her core muscle stability has improved. When she was younger I could tuck her head into one of the shoulder folds to support it and now she loves to tuck it in there when she wants to nap. Also, speaking of naps, she is the Queen cat napper so carrying her allows her to nap on the go and stops the grizzles when she hasn't slept enough!”

For me personally, wearing Beth helped me to bond with her enormously. It was very hard for us when she was born, we had to completely change our mindset about what we thought our baby was going to be like and we had to learn a whole new way of life in order to be support her needs. My life took on a new role of constant research into the best ways to help her to achieve her milestones. We spent pretty much all of her waking hours doing therapies. But the times when she slept she slept on me, and with me at night. I grew a love for her that I never thought possible. She is quite simply a wonderful child, funny and sweet and fills our hearts with joy. She is also a stubborn little thing!!

Beth is now 6, and still asks to be carried, these days with her weighing nearly 21kg, I am a little less keen to say yes!

Thanks to Dave at yourcub.com for this great infographic.

Some further reading you may find helpful:

Babywearing and Down Syndrome: Tesla’s Story

Babywearing a baby with Down Syndrome

Babywearing And Down Syndrome



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